It’s a simple process that’s more often than not, unavoidable. You simply can’t circumvent asking a girl out if you want to get laid. Now, to some people, asking out a girl is second nature. Some guys are always busy dating one girl or a number of them. Other guys may find that they need help in this department. They may be shy and lack confidence. They may just not have that much experience. It could be anything really. I’m going to help you change that.
Here are some basic tips on how to ask a girl out.
1. Measure her level of interest.
The first step is to simply gauge whether or not she is interested in you. Did she notice you right away when you walked into the room? Has she tried to make eye contact with you and maybe even smile? Does she look your way from far across the room? These are simple indicators that she might be interested in you. If she seems annoyed, busy or closed off, then move along to someone else. There’s no sense in you wasting any time if she’s sending signals to stay away. Just keep your distance and find your next target.
2. Get to know her.
The next step is trying to get to know the girl you want to ask out. You have got to start small. Find out her name from your friends or hers if possible. If you can’t, then just introduce yourself to her and make some small talk. The objective is to make a connection and commonality of some sort. Identifying any common interests that you may have with her will work to your advantage. Joke with her and make her laugh if you can. Be yourself, relax and treat her as a friend first. Pay attention to her and determine her likes and dislikes. Don’t be afraid to ask her more personal questions. A few things you can ask her without seeming too invasive are to ask her if she has pets or what her favorite tv show might be. I’d also recommend complimenting her on her looks, in a non-creepy way. Try to focus on her eyes when you are talking to her. When doing this, I definitely recommend that you do not stare at her boobs, she might just shoot you down before you have a chance to ask her out.
3. Be dressed to work and happy.
Be presentable when you ask a girl out. Be sure that you smell as good as you look but don’t take a bath in your cologne. Your deodorant should be lightly fresh and your breath should not smell like the onions that you just ate for lunch. Pop a piece of gum before your first encounter. I also advise that your clothes should be clean and presentable. Girls like nicely groomed guys with good personalities. Never ask a girl out after you finished working out at the gym or in a bad mood.
4. Do it privately.
I definitely recommend getting the girl you want to ask out alone before doing so. Not only will it be less noisy and distracting for both of you but you will get a more honest answer from her. She also won’t be pressured by her friends that way and neither of you feel embarrassed. It’s a matter of showing respect for her. Trust me, she’ll appreciate that.
5. Be confidently casual.
You should be confident and casual about asking her out. Don’t make a big deal out of asking her out and act like you do it all the time. Approach her friendly and don’t look like your trying to hard. Ask about her day and how she’s doing that day. It’s important that you don’t talk too fast or mumble. You want to come across as confidently passive. It’s nice to be confident but too much confidence makes you look like a douchebag.
Now, if she says no and rejects your offer, simply stay confident and friendly. Be sure to end the conversation in the nicest way possible. Remember, she may not be into you but she may have a friend that just might be. You also need to remember that you might have to try a couple times before getting a “Yes” from a girl. I personally use all these approaches and if your friends need help determining how to ask a girl out, then I’d recommend sharing this article with them.
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