So, you read this post and scored a girl in a bar? Good for you.
Next up, she became your girlfriend. Even better. However, this is when it gets difficult.
When you want to end your dating with a woman who you think is completely into you, it can become very tough not to hurt her in the process.
If you ask us, there really isn’t the perfect way that will stop her from being depressed or sad after you announce the news because no one really likes receiving a boot.
Everything comes down to the intensity of the relationship both of you have shared. If this has been lingering on for quite a while, expect nothing but negative response. The best way to let down a girl gently is to do it during the early stages of the relationship. If it still has been long since you’ve been dating, there are still ways you can minimize the damage.
Let’s look at some of the best ways to minimize the damages when you want a girl to go from your life.
Do not be too truthful
We all know that honesty is the best policy, but when it comes to dumping someone, this isn’t really the best approach. If you tell her that you do not want to date her because of her personal traits, interests or looks, you’re really going to break her apart.
Instead, come up with a valid reason. Tell her that there are some things about her that really don’t please you and how you cannot make this relationship work anymore. Or just tell her that you are currently considering building your career up and the time constraints will hurt you both in a long term relationship. This way it will sound logical to her. Don’t forget to tell her the good things about your relationship so at least she knows that it wasn’t a complete waste of time and energy on her part. Let her know she was great, but you prefer something else.
Give an excuse but avoid the poor ones
Don’t come up with an excuse that she can easily figure out. The last thing she wants to hear from you is a lie at the end. Come up with clever excuses that you know she will never be able to figure out no matter how hard she tries. When in a relationship, she will listen to you and will actually believe you.
Do it during a face to face conversation
Avoid sending a text, a message or an email when you want to turn her down. Set up a proper meeting during lunch or dinner and then talk to her slowly about what is going through your head. Make sure that you enjoy the evening before breaking the news. Try to go as slowly as you can to minimize the damages she is going to get when she hears the news from you.
Don’t let yourself linger to other things. Remain to the point and be focused. Let her know that you’re done so she doesn’t start believing there’s still a chance with you.