Seriously, are you in it to win it?
I created today’s post to ask people if they really are putting forth a solid effort into their online dating quest.
I look at it this way, most people who join a gym don’t use it to it’s full advantage. Some people get all the money out of it, and more. Others just pay the monthly dues and know they can go when they want. This is not a way to use a gym membership. Heck, I use mine to work out and meet women. But that’s neither here, nor there.
Here is some online dating advice, and things to remember.
If the first few dates don’t work out, don’t be disheartened or put off, it is not quite worth putting yourself under too much pressure when going through online dating. Understand that communication gaps in not being able to assess each other may be the cause of an unsuccessful relationship. You met them online, and probably had little communication with them before stepping out.
However, you can make sure you practice your bit to not repeat the same mistakes the next time, practicing the ways of such social relationships and learning to uphold them.
- Thou shall not impose
Live and let live. If you want to take down your online dating profile, it may not be the choice of your prospective partner and so hey, do not impose your thoughts and add an aura of pressure and struggle in the relationship. That will only build negativity.
- Do not generalize
There is no need to attempt hurting someone else’s feelings just because you haven’t been sure of your own. All five fingers are not the same and so refrain from statements like ‘you women love shopping’. The one you’re with might be more interested in reading and writing. She will just begin to think you don’t understand her and don’t want to.
- Inspire her
Refrain from uninteresting and nonchalant advances for asking her out. Pick something that she has mentioned she is interested in and that may be your topic or engagement for the meet up. Otherwise, she will only begin thinking, is this really all he’s interested in and is this all going to be so casual…
- Be an optimist
An aura of positivity, happiness, friendliness and the ‘sugar, spice and everything nice’ puts the kick and motive through to indulge with a person giving out these promising and optimistic signals. If you like you, he or she will like you too, so keep your vibe up!
- Curiosity kills the cat
Curiosity and a bit of ‘why don’t you find you for yourself’ may be a turn on for many men and women, but make sure you assess that about them first. Keep windows open for allowing your prospective partner to discover themselves in you, yet keeping a confident and downright sure vibe about yourself.